Everyone makes New Year’s resolutions to get fit or healthier in the new year. This twelve month period, be different, and make a pledge to better the relationships in your life. Having healthy relations in your existence does reap some health benefits. Research proposes that married people live longer, enjoy more satisfying sex lives, and experience less stress. Granted, marriage between two people is not the only interconnection worth while. It takes a village to raise a child, and according to a study done in Okinawa, Japan, to be blessed with a group of friends and spend time with them is one of the secrets to living a long, happy, disease free life. In this first post in 2013 I want to share with you tips that will deepen the affinities you already have in your life, so that you experience the benefits of letting tons of love into your days.
Forgive and forget. Easier said than done, but once done your relationship can begin to grow again. First, you want to get it all out. Express how you feel or how you were hurt in a heart to heart talk, then everything else you might have left out in that heart to heart, write it down in a letter but do not send it. Put it in a box or drawer for safe keeping. Upon hiding this letter let your hard feelings go and start to rebuild the bond in your correlation.
Make Time for your Relationship. In this busy day in age if we don’t make time for “things” those “things” don’t get done. Therefore, it is important to set aside time in your day to share intimacy with someone else. It doesn’t have to be sexual (though in my opinion it’s the most beneficial contact), it can be giving your sister a phone call, or shopping with your best friend, as long as you are sharing yourself with someone you are encountering intimacy.
Create a Routine. When you generate a routine with another person you build closeness with that individual. My beau and I cook dinner every Saturday night and then fall asleep on the couch watching Saturday Night Live. It’s nothing fancy, something we have in common, and it develops a tie that connects us. Then, we have “inside” jokes that always rise a little unexpected giggle out of us.
Paying close attention to the relationships in your life should be a part of your everyday regime. It will help keep the bounce in your step, and a smile on your face. Being able to confide in a family member, laugh with a friend, or cry with someone assists in keeping the mind, body, and soul in tip-top shape.